A 23-year old “woman” was just arrested for kicking her
toddler to death in Pennsylvania. The “woman” at first called 911 saying that
her child wasn’t responding and that she didn’t know why, but authorities soon
discovered the truth. Details are still coming in, but so far the facts from
the medical examiner state that the child suffered multiple contusions to the
head and torso and appears to have been malnourished. The “woman” soon admitted
thereafter that she did indeed kick her child over and over again.
So, why am I putting the term “woman” in quotes? “Woman”
implies that the person is no longer a youth. That she is a mature adult. While
this is physically true, it’s my personal opinion that most “adults” under the
age of twenty-five are just not emotionally
so—especially in this day and age.
Back in the old days—before the 1970s—a good majority of
married couples and parents were under the age of twenty-five. It was the norm
and yes, they were more mature. They
had grown up in the shadow of war and depression and were not expected to go to
college in order to start and support a family. They simply did what their
parents—and their parents’ parent—had done. Family bonds were stronger. There
was a support system of aunts, uncles, grandmothers, sisters, neighbors … family.
And there was religion.
But today’s twenty-five year old is far different from
yesterday’s. Today’s quarter-century adult is in a state of arrested
development. They’ve been weaned on reality television, the Internet, mobile
phones, video games and more. They haven’t learned what real responsibility is,
because they’ve been given everything (ie: iPhones, Xboxes, Super Sweet 16s) and
have been subjected to an extreme amount of outrageousness (Kardashians,
cell-phone recorded school fights, The Jersey Shore, accosting of hookers in
Grand Theft Auto, etc.). They don’t even understand
the reality of the world and what it means to be an adult. That’s why they
shouldn’t become a parent.
This “woman” who kicked her toddler to death didn’t fully
understand what it means to take care of a child, because she was still one
herself. Ask any parent and they will tell you that taking care of kids is
HARD. Children cry. They complain. They don’t sleep. They won’t always eat.
They want this. They want that. They don’t
want this. They don’t want that. And why? Because they’re babies.
In order to be a parent, you should be 100% willing and
ready to give up your self. All of you. All of your wants and needs.
Because that’s what it takes to raise
a child. Having a baby is not about you. It’s about that other life. That life
that you brought into this world. And
it takes a mature adult to know that. A girl who had that child at twenty or
twenty-one is not a mature adult.
Could any of this have been prevented? Well, her case is not
a new one. Situations like this play out every day in America. But perhaps—depending
on who was in her life—it could have been prevented. I’m almost certain, this
“woman” had a smartphone. Perhaps, if her
parents had installed a spy cell phone tracker free of contact on their daughter’s device, they
could’ve seen or heard some signs of abuse and been able to save their
grandchild.
A good spy cell phone tracker could let the user activate the
target phone’s microphone and camera in order to survey the “woman’s”
surroundings. It could also allow the user to spy cell phone text messages and calls or photos
to search for signs of a mental break down.
I’m not saying that a good mobile surveillance product would have saved that baby from being
kicked to death, but it could’ve helped. After all, in my opinion, the first
sign of a troubled mother should start with her age. If you ask me, twenty-one
is far too young to become a mother or father.
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